So as we gear up for our next deployment, we are trying to do
all things California since we will move when my love returns. It’s exciting
and stressful all at the same time. I guess it can be considered both the rose and thorn. Moving around, military or otherwise, is an interesting animal. Since I lived in one place for a quarter of a century before this adventure began, I’ve seen both sides of living. In my ethnic culture, families stay close so this nomadic lifestyle has not always been well received, even by me. But I’ve become accustomed to it I guess.
You learn to develop a family of choice. In some locations, it’s
been co-workers such as it was in Arizona. In other locations, it was
neighbors. In North Carolina, we lived on base which was the first time for me. It was a nice homogeneous group…all of us around the same age and all of our children the same age….all on the same neighborhood block.
Currently, I have some great and interesting people in my life.
Of the neighbors who happen to be military, there are a few I call friends. One person, whom I call my “Tiger Mom” due to her Asian descent and tough parenting style with her boys, has been a great influence on me in regard to academics and discipline. Another neighbor/friend is as sweet as pie. I’m not sure I could be that sweet, but she naturally is and she has inspired me by how involved she is at her church and with her kids spiritually. And then there is my friend who has not only inspired me with discipline and spirituality, but also with her experience and belief in homeopathic remedies. I love California for its openness to all
things natural in regard to food, lifestyle and medical treatment.
And then there are some neighbors from France whom we love. They showed up with baguettes when we moved in. You have to love that greeting. There is also a senior whom we met at a community BBQ. He had been caring for his wife in a nursing home for 7 years, 2-3 times a day. I knew immediately this man was amazing. My mom was a social worker for over 30 years and said she never saw such care and dedication. His wife passed away shortly after we met him
and so we’ve taken him in and him us. He has become the grandparent that my children can have locally which is a blessing.
So if it wasn’t for this nomadic lifestyle, I would have never
met such interesting people and developed these good friendships. Thinking about all this has been my rose for the day. No thorns otherwise.